More and more women I've talked to are using the Internet to meet Mr. Right. Online services like eHarmony.com are making this an increasingly attractive option, but how can you safely meet someone that you've encountered online?Here are a few tips that I picked up from Peter Walsh, professional organizer from TLC's hit series, Clean Sweep:
- Get a picture or two immediately. There's no sense in going forward if he's not your type!
- Be restrained in deciding when to reveal your email address and phone number.
- Meet as soon as possible, ideally after only four to six email messages and a phone call. Late-night marathon sessions of pouring your heart out online can make strangers feel like soul mates.
- Be honest -- you won't have to clean up things later.
- Share details of your life judiciously.
- Arrange to meet in a neutral location that's well-lit and full of people. Don't give out your address and don't drive together.
- Meet for coffee on the first date, rather than dinner. If you know immediately that this person is wrong for you, you can exit quickly and painlessly.
- Enlist someone to help. Have a friend stay close-by or even consider introducing the friend and get her feedback later.
- Shut up and listen. Pay attention to things that don't feel right. If your date refuses to discuss past relationships or family, you've probably got trouble. One gal shared that she had to call her date to reschedule and ended up talking to his wife!
- Assess your overall compatibility with your date, not just your suitor's physical appearance. Do you like the person? Is his emotional baggage a carry-on or a steamer trunk? Does he listen to you or just wait until it's her turn to talk again?
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