tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post2230885533181175548..comments2021-03-08T18:28:10.144-05:00Comments on The Midlife Journey: First Signs of a Female Midlife Crisis (According to the Guys)Christine Schaaphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05071796728493318123noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-30092998148632706262012-10-31T18:32:22.793-05:002012-10-31T18:32:22.793-05:00I have identified 10 signs. 28 years we've bee...I have identified 10 signs. 28 years we've been together. I'm the innocent party and now I have to endure this horrible pain inside of me, I don't wish this upon any individual but unfortunately these situations happen to millions of people around the world. I have given her the space she has requested to find herself and I have told her to take all the time she needs to find that love back for me, its in her hands as I can't do anything more to help. I pray for her to get over this terrible (illness) crisis which she has no control over. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-77647840226186437462012-10-31T18:31:40.930-05:002012-10-31T18:31:40.930-05:00I have identified 10 signs. 28 years we've bee...I have identified 10 signs. 28 years we've been together. I'm the innocent party and now I have to endure this horrible pain inside of me, I don't wish this upon any individual but unfortunately these situations happen to millions of people around the world. I have given her the space she has requested to find herself and I have told her to take all the time she needs to find that love back for me, its in her hands as I can't do anything more to help. I pray for her to get over this terrible (illness) crisis which she has no control over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-66079961530669002842012-05-04T15:30:26.530-05:002012-05-04T15:30:26.530-05:00I know how you feel. I nearly started an affair. A...I know how you feel. I nearly started an affair. And so hurt that it never happened. This is not me and don't know who I am anymore!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-41852458325684416942012-05-03T19:39:17.382-05:002012-05-03T19:39:17.382-05:00How long have you been having this affair? Is it f...How long have you been having this affair? Is it fullfilling your happiness?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-12449168149253041122012-04-08T17:46:19.155-05:002012-04-08T17:46:19.155-05:00Yes I see the signs! I feel lost and alone, and af...Yes I see the signs! I feel lost and alone, and after having spent the last 20 years taking care of my family and not developing any outside interests, not sure what to do. The main players in my life have moved on to other interests. My best friend has recently divorced and has started the honeymoon phase in a new relationship which means she spends all her time now with him. Gone are the "girls night out" days, my son now lives out of state and my 16 yr old daughter is emotionally distant. Now let's talk about my husbands two interests, 90 % golf, then after I should automatically be interested in sex right? My persona is cook, maid, and concubine and it's my own fault for not having taken the time to develop some self interests along the way, but it's gone on so long I don't even know what I like I have been such a shadow of my family and what they like.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-64592172618436319862011-12-16T11:52:35.600-05:002011-12-16T11:52:35.600-05:00My Wife fits almost all of these. Started with the...My Wife fits almost all of these. Started with the gray hair and drinking almost every night. Started the lose weight thing and exerciser and something she always said was that she would never go running and now obsessive with it. Had an affair with the Neighbors 39 year old Son and then told me she Loved me but wasn't happy and cries every night! She moved out and got an apartment with the guy she was having the affair with. Knew the guy for maybe two and a half months and says she is madly in Love with the guy. No warnings out of the blue and wants a divorce.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-49871399479176939882011-10-08T02:39:55.973-05:002011-10-08T02:39:55.973-05:00My partner of 7 years is going through perimenopau...My partner of 7 years is going through perimenopause and a mid life crisis. I too like the other commenter see many of these signs. Being another female it hurts deeply. She just says to shut up and take it and be patient because things will change. I am just afraid that I have wasted my life and time with someone who no longer wants me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-6547525717161780192011-09-23T20:19:14.459-05:002011-09-23T20:19:14.459-05:00Many of these "warning signs" fit what I...Many of these "warning signs" fit what I'm going through. I feel like my children & husband have sucked the life out of me. I'm in danger of losing every bit of what makes me "ME". I can't go on like this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-17359389648626754022011-09-22T01:42:33.525-05:002011-09-22T01:42:33.525-05:00I hope my wife didn't write comment #3I hope my wife didn't write comment #3Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-3864112634240806172011-08-04T00:19:41.740-05:002011-08-04T00:19:41.740-05:0011 of them apply to me...gonna be a bumpy ride...11 of them apply to me...gonna be a bumpy ride...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-35870662273365993072011-01-10T08:49:31.667-05:002011-01-10T08:49:31.667-05:00We are going through the same thing in my house......We are going through the same thing in my house....however i beleive my wife's crisis may have been fueled by a betrayal on my part some time ago....but it has affected her in a terrible way....she is no longer the beautiful person she once was....maybe this was inside her all along, but scoring 18 out of 21 can not be good regardless of the situation....unfortunately, i don't know how to help her and soon she will be on her own as our marriage will pay the ultimate price for this crisis..... to Everyone else......don't give up on your partner....try, try and try again.....it will be worth it in the Long Run!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-4636101707839115272010-08-26T21:21:40.410-05:002010-08-26T21:21:40.410-05:00My EX Wife displayed every one of those behaviors ...My EX Wife displayed every one of those behaviors listed. Worst nightmare of my life. She single handedly destroyed our family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-48625426690407043532010-01-06T20:27:21.902-05:002010-01-06T20:27:21.902-05:00i can relate to this. my ex(age 36) dumped me not ...i can relate to this. my ex(age 36) dumped me not long after her mom died. she changed totally. lazer eye surgery, different hairstyle.lost weight and joined a gym. wants to be single and only look after herself. buying a flash car. wearing labelled clothes. going out more and late nights. <br /><br />she became detached as her mom was getting more ill. wouldnt open up and kept things to herself. she used to be someone who liked nights in and not into late nights. she was arguementative when she used to be easy goign and laid back. in the end i felt i was walking on egg shells. she was always on facebook towards the end. i tried to give her all the space she wanted and let her deal with things how she wanted<br /><br />it felt as if she was pushing me out no matter what i did. only spoke to her once in 8 months. she has disappeared.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-47109867180900216722010-01-06T20:17:00.936-05:002010-01-06T20:17:00.936-05:00I wasnt married to my ex(she is 36). but i can rel...I wasnt married to my ex(she is 36). but i can relate to so much of what was written. He mom died from cancer.she was withdrawing from the relationship. she was losing weight and going to the gym.only months earlier was wanting me to get a house together. she dumped me just after they buried her moms ashes. she said she didnt want a boyfriend anymore and didnt know when she would. since spliting up she has has lazer eye surgery done, changed her appearance and looking younger with a new hairstyle. going out late more.before she used to like staying in and early nights.more short dresses and designer labels than the old jeans and baggy tops and glasses. now she is splashing out on a new flash car.<br /><br />i've been confused for months on what went wrong but i now believe her moms death is giving her a midlife crisis.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-74004100584440824082009-12-28T10:50:32.334-05:002009-12-28T10:50:32.334-05:00Just found out a few months ago that my wife was h...Just found out a few months ago that my wife was having an affair. Better than 80% of the examples fit her to a T. My dilema is that she would not see herself like this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-42574077116307350132008-08-31T14:28:00.000-05:002008-08-31T14:28:00.000-05:00My wife of 32 years has ALL of these signs! She ha...My wife of 32 years has ALL of these signs! She has put me out on the curb like yesterdays trash and has forgotten that I even exist.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-87638572021186305012007-05-12T00:17:00.000-05:002007-05-12T00:17:00.000-05:00im so screwed up i started an affair an my husband...im so screwed up i started an affair an my husband will literaly kill me when he finds outAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-82316362093176142162007-03-28T22:29:00.000-05:002007-03-28T22:29:00.000-05:00My partner is going through "something." We have b...My partner is going through "something." We have been together for 13 years and over the past month I can see 13 of the 21 signs. As a female I am emotional as well and I am having a hard time with her emotions during this time. Ughhh!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18515529.post-60476648808274951592007-03-14T18:40:00.000-05:002007-03-14T18:40:00.000-05:0016 and 17 are right on the money for me.16 and 17 are right on the money for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com